How to Actually “Adult”: 7 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me at 17

So, you’re about to launch into adulthood—or maybe you already have—and you’re wondering, “Why didn’t anyone warn me it would feel like this?”

Welcome to the club, friend. We don’t have matching jackets, but we do have coffee-fueled panic attacks and a shared Google Doc of emergency numbers. So, let’s skip the boring lectures and get to the good stuff:

Here are 7 real-life truths I wish someone had handed me before tossing me into the grown-up pool without floaties.

1. You don’t magically “feel” like an adult. Ever.

There’s no big moment when you wake up and suddenly understand taxes, car insurance, or why your back hurts. You just...start doing your best and hope for the best. Spoiler: That’s what most adults are doing, too.

2. Paying bills is not a personality.

It’s easy to think that being an adult is just about working and paying rent, but listen—your joy, hobbies, and mental health still matter. Your entire existence doesn’t have to revolve around your 9-to-5.

3. Your credit score is a petty little number with BIG opinions.

This number follows you around like a judgy ex. It affects everything from your apartment applications to your car insurance. Learn how to keep it cute, even if you’re broke (more on that in a future post!).

4. You will mess up. You are still worthy.

Overdraft fees? Missed appointments? Ghosting your dentist for two years? Yup. Been there. Screwing up is part of the deal. Just learn, regroup, and try again. Guilt ≠ growth.

5. Boundaries are your superpower.

Saying “no” doesn’t make you mean. Saying “yes” to everything doesn’t make you kind. You are allowed to set boundaries with people, jobs, family, and even your own phone. (Yes, that “Do Not Disturb” button is your new bestie.)

6. You don’t have to have it all figured out.

There is no single “right” path. Some people go to college. Some don’t. Some people start families at 22. Others adopt a cat at 40 and call it a day. You’re not behind—you’re just on your timeline.

7. You’re doing better than you think.

Seriously. The fact that you’re here, reading this, trying to grow and learn? That already makes you light years ahead of the game. Give yourself credit—and maybe a snack.

💬 TL;DR:

Adulting isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. Start small. Ask questions. Laugh at the messiness. You’re allowed to be learning. You’re allowed to not know.

And if no one’s told you lately? You’re doing great.

Checkout this simple survival checklistI

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